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Selfies and Social Media

When a supervisor says “I am watching you”, it is said in a threatening manner. Allah regularly reminds us in the Qur’an that He is the All-Seeing in a loving, merciful and compassionate manner. I was pondering over this, and social media came to mind.

In our day and age, technology is considered the way forward and an obsession in our modern era. Whether young or old, you would be hard-pressed to find someone without a handheld device. Though a phone was designed to call and text, nowadays, the camera is a greater selling point. That is how Shaytan has made common the sin of taking pictures of living beings.

Selfies which were once unheard of, have become very common now. It made me wonder, why do people do it? Why do people who would once upon a time, cycle to simply unwind, now cycle and video their journey? Or keep a log of their activities on social media, which they would have previously kept to themselves? Often it is an act of ostentation or vanity. Our concern lies with impressing people online, thus we share private aspects of our lives to draw attention. But in reality, only a few people may notice, some may be jealous and most people do not care.

In contrast, Allah cares about what we do, He is the All-Seeing. Even when our cameras are off, His are still on. He is watching even when no-one else can. Technology can fail us. At times the camera dies whilst a person may think it is still on and recording. Allah never fails to watch and record us.

Therefore, if you desire to show someone, show Allah. Want to impress someone? Impress Allah. If you impress people on social media you may just get a few likes, comments and shares and that is all. However, if you impress Allah He will grant you Jannah, a reward far greater than we can possibly imagine. A seeker will always find what he seeks. Seek people, you will never be able to acquire their pleasure. Seek Allah and you will acquire Him, via His mercy in this life and His honorable presence in the afterlife.

May Allah rid our hearts of ostentation, vanity and all such evil qualities, Aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

Above is an extract from Hazrat’s talk on 25/09/17 in Masjid-ut-Taqwa, Pietermaritzburg. To listen to the full talk, please click here.

6 points to be wary of when doing Qurbani

Here in South Africa, on Eidul Adha it is exciting to visit the farms and purchase our Qurbani animals. The enthusiasm to do Qurbani is beautiful and commendable. Our akaabireen would buy animals one year in advance. They would keep it and then do Qurbani the next year.
However, for the Sahaaba رضي الله عنهم they would always have animals with them grazing in their yard. Whenever they needed meat, they would simply sacrifice an animal and eat. It was normal.

Therefore, when Qurbani became waajib, they asked Nabi ﷺ, “What is Qurbani?” In other words, what makes it different to a normal sacrifice? Nabi ﷺ responded that it is the Sunnah of your father Ibrahim عليه السلام. Adam عليه السلام also did Qurbani but Ulama explained that the sacrifice of Ibrahim عليه السلام was specified due to the magnitude of His submission to Allah. He was willing to sacrifice his own son, that is not a small matter.

This shows that whilst we should get into the spirit of Qurbani, we must not overlook the purpose of it all. The purpose is to please Allah by sacrificing with taqwa. Allah himself says that the meat will not reach Him, only the taqwa in our hearts will. It is this taqwa that will lead to acceptance. Taqwa means to fear Allah and to follow His commands as a result of it. Below are five ways that we can ensure our actual Qurbani is done with Taqwa:

  1. Protect the gaze: In Qurbani it is makrooh for us to allow one animal to see another animal getting slaughtered. Many people are cautious of this, ensuring that the animals are kept separate. Yet we allow our inner animal to see our sister in laws, the neighbour’s daughter and other women. If we allow a sheep to see another it is makrooh, but if we look at another strange woman it is haram. The sheep will not get a sin but we will so be careful in this regard.
  2. Backbiting: This is common on Eid day, people backbite about the way someone does Qurbani. Remember we all have our own techniques. It is fine to disagree on a matter but there is no need to overstep the line and backbite.
  3. Boasting and drawing comparisons: People boast about how much they spend on their Qurbani animal, comparing it with others. Your wealth does not reach Allah, so why boast? Furthermore, wealth is merely a gift from Allah and He will give and take as He pleases. So what is there to boast about?
  4. Photography and videoing: Some people follow a fatwa that photography is permissible. Despite this, it makes absolutely no sense to video yourself slaughtering. Allah has allowed for us to take the life of an animal to fulfil our waajib Qurbani and to earn in the process. Why do we turn it into a movie, making videos and sharing it on Facebook, boasting about our knives and slaughtering techniques? Think about it, ask yourself the reason as to why you are recording. It is done to show off and showing off reduces our hard earned rewards.
  5. Salaah: Many people miss Salah on Eid day. Some present the excuse that blood fell on my shirt making it dirty.Thus I was unable to attend Jamat. However, we know that our clothes will get dirty in the process. Brother, what else were you expecting, a bunch of flowers? Obviously, when you slaughter blood will be all over the place. Therefore, carry a clean set of clothing, change and then attend the masjid. Do not miss Salah, that excuse is not valid in the sight of Allah.
  6. Anger: Many people fall prey to anger and even become vulgar while carrying out our Qurbani thus reducing our reward and adding to our sins. We should be wary not to fall prey to anger.

May Allah enable us to act with taqwa and may He accept our sacrifices as a result of it, Aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s talk on 29/08/17 in Masjide Ayesha, Marburg. To listen to the full talk, please click here.)

What causes us to show off?

 As a result of insincerity, diseases such as riya/showing off will enter the heart. His gaze is no longer on Allah ﷻ, he just wants to impress people now. This eventually leads to many further spiritual diseases, one of them is jealousy. Why? Because if a person is showing off, he wants the spotlight and all the attention on him. So when someone else is upstaging him, immediately a sense of jealousy enters his heart. If he allows this jealousy to intensify, hatred creeps in. Another spiritual disease stemming from riya is pride. If people are impressed with him, he feels proud. If pride doesn’t enter, ujub would. Ujub means to be self conceited – considering ourselves to be too good.

Now, often due to the dominating effect of pride in the heart, no effort in islah is made. Sometimes, the person can even be present in the circles where islah is taking place. But his niyyah and purpose is totally opposite. So this pride clouds everything else.

Ibn qayyum رحمه الله says that the words on a person’s tongue is a window to what he holds in his heart.

Therefore, deep-hearted pride, jealousy e.t.c will manifest itself in a person’s actions. For example, if someone is drowning in the ocean and we throw a rope in to save them. A while later, someone else sees him and enters the dingy to pull him out. Now in this situation, perhaps he would’ve drowned if we didn’t throw in the rope and help him first. However regardless of this, we still thank the one who entered the dingy! We don’t fight with him saying that we saw him first, we deserve to be the one who pulls him out, saves him and gets the credit for it e.t.c it’s foolishness! Outwardly, our efforts in helping him may seem sterling. But if we are insincere seeking recognition and praise, then this action will not be accepted by Allah ﷻ. And anything rejected by Allah ﷻ, will amount to nothing.

On the other hand, deep-hearted sincerity and humility will also shine through a person’s speech and actions. For example, this morning we were doing a hadeeth in which Hazrat Khalid رضي الله عنه was talking about the battle of Mutah. Hazrat Khalid رضي الله عنه said that 9 swords broke in my hand on that day, and I was only left with a small, Yemeni sword (referring to a small dagger). Hazrat Khalid رضي الله عنه could’ve attributed the achievement to himself by saying “Do you know, on the day of muta I broke 9 swords?!” But instead of saying – I – He humbled himself, opting to saying that 9 broke in my hand, and it’s this level of humility that takes a believer from average to beloved in the sight of Allah ﷻ.

May Allah grant us grant us sincerity and humility Aameen.

(The above is an extract from Hazrat’s bayan. To listen to the full audio, please click here)