Ka’ab bin Malik رضي الله عنه promised to never lie after Allah declared his honesty in the Qur’an. His young son heard this and also decided to never tell a lie, bearing testimony to his unwavering faith at a tender age when most are lost to societal pressures. He grew up having never told a single lie.
Honesty is one of the noblest character traits a believer can possess. Nabi ﷺ said, “You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is recorded with Allah as truthful. And beware of falsehood. Verily, falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire. A man continues tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is recorded with Allah as a liar.” (Sahih Bukhari)
A person once came to Hazrat Ml. Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه and he told him that he had a habit of lying. Hazrat gave him many solutions but he was unable to change. Eventually, he said that next time you lie, immediately apologise to the person and tell him that you were lying. Days passed and he managed to avoid lying. Thus, his stubborn sin was put to an end.
This is one way to break the evil habit. If a person persists and cannot stop lying, he should consult his teacher, a learned elder or his Shaikh. A real Shaikh has a lot of love and affection for those who seek advice. Some people ask once, struggle and never seek advice again. This is incorrect. Ask, act upon the advice and ask again if you are not changing. The more you ask, the more he will try to help you until you find a solution to your problems. A doctor will never look down on his patient with disgust due to his sickness. Likewise, a Shaikh never looks down on his mureeds due to their weaknesses.
After seeking guidance, a mureed must make a concerted effort to act upon it and stop lying. Effort and sacrifice is of utmost importance. Without this, the chances of change are naturally slim. For “Indeed Allah does not change a people’s condition unless they change their inner selves.” (Qur’an, 13:11)
— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله
Above is an extract from Hazrat’s talk on 31/01/17 in Stanger Masjid, Durban. To listen to the full talk, please click here.