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Be wary of whom you take your deen from

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Be wary of whom you take your deen from

Introductory Note: On the 22nd of August 2017 a marriage conference was held at the Sandton Convention Centre, Johannesburg. Scholars flew in from all over the world to give speeches. The conference was branded as Islamic. However, on the day many laws of the Shariah were violated. This includes free-mixing, acts in which very dirty jokes were made, insults towards the marriage of Nabi ﷺ and utter disrespect towards the noble Abu Hurairah (RA).

In this talk, Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat (DB) spoke about these violations and their great, long-term consequences. Hazrat also made mention of the Eidgah in Durban and the Ship cruise. The commonality between all three events is the modernisation of deen caused by lack of ilm and not seeking the guidance of true, upright Scholars. This modernisation is a global problem. The primary advice contained in this transcript deals with the causes of modernisation and how to combat them in light of the Sunnah. Hazrat further speaks about whom we can take our deen from and whom we should avoid, making this transcript one that is applicable to all.

Lastly, any mistakes are the error of the compiler for which I seek Allah’s forgiveness and the reader’s pardon. May Allah accept Hazrat’s work and efforts, aameen.

 

4 Causes, Consequences and the Cure to showing off

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The worst form of riya (i.e. showing off) is in Imaan. This means to show faith outwardly but to inwardly harbour disbelief in Allah. The hypocrites are those who did this which explains why they are doomed to enter the lowest part of the hellfire. For us we have sincerely brought Imaan so alhamdulillah Allah has protected us from this. However, there are many more insidious, dangerous forms of riya that we also need to avoid at all costs.

Firstly, we must avoid riya in voluntary acts of worship. Speaking of this Imam Ghazali رحمة الله عليه explains that for some people, the way they worship depends on who they are with. For example, a hifz student recites one way at home, better to a friend and even better to his teacher. Ultimately though he may be reading for the pleasure of Allah alone, there is a stench of ostentation in his recitation. It is hoped that Allah will forgive him.

Secondly, we must avoid performing an act of worship only to impress someone. For example, a man may not usually read Awabeen Salah but he does when his Shaikh prays next to him. Or, he does not usually read the Qur’an but he does when someone comes over. Such actions are riya because they are being done for people, not for the sake of Allah! Do the action, but intend it for Allah not people.

Thirdly, holding dual intentions is also a form of riya. This means to perform an act for the sake of Allah and people. An action done in this manner holds no reward and no sin. Therefore, it is a wasted effort with no value in the sight of Allah. Remember that in business a partnership is acceptable but in our intentions, Allah does not accept partnership. So if we partner Allah with someone else Allah will not give us anything in return, what a waste of good deeds!

Fourthly, we spoke about doing a good deed for people is riya. Abstaining from a good deed due to the fear that people may think that I am doing this for show, or in order to be praised, is also a type of riya. For example if a man walks down the road with a tasbeeh in his hand, but on the way he bumps into an old school friend he used to smoke with. Now if he hides his tasbeeh away due to his friend, then that too is a type of riya. Or, if a young man intends to pray awabeen but after Salah all the young men leave and he knows the rest will praise him so he opts to omit the awabeen due to the people, that too is a type of riya.

The cure for these four types of riya is to focus on Allah, not people. What people say is their problem not our concern. Our concern is will Allah accept and what will he say? If you have riya in a certain action then get rid of the riya, not the action. Hazrat Ml. Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه would say that if your mattress has bedbugs on it, you would get rid of the bedbugs and keep the mattress. Riya is like those bedbugs and our amal (i.e. good deeds) is the mattress. Keep the amal, throw the riya away. Otherwise if we throw the amal away then the problem riya will continue and it will move on to another amal.

To overcome riya, always refresh your intentions. At the beginning of a good deed, remind yourself that you are doing it for the sake of Allah. During the course of the amal, the situation may change and riya may enter your heart. This is poison from shaytan, this is your nafs trying to derail you. To overcome this simply remind yourself again, that I am simply doing this for Allah. Furthermore, do not consider your amal great, otherwise there is a fear riya will enter. Worship more in solitude than you do in company. If we can only worship in front of people then there is a problem.

Lastly if you do good deeds with sincerity and nobody saw you, then remember that years later shaytan will still try to shoot a hole in your investment. Some people wake up for tahajjud and they gather great rewards. But then when speaking to others, they slip in a sentence or two about their tahajjud, now shaytan has put a hole in his bucket of rewards. Many times, shaytaan will steal the reward for a good deed years after we did it. For example, if we tell someone about our charitable donations from 20 years ago. That time when we did it, no one knew. Now 20 years later he has boasted and shaytan has stolen the rewards. We do not know if our deeds have been accepted by Allah or not, so what surety do we even have to boast about? Where boasting begins, sincerity ends.

We need to careful on social media too. Facebook and Instagram breeds this problem. Imagine a good deed as noble as Qurbani, look at what great sincerity and sacrifice our father Ebrahim عليه السلام displayed when he did Qurbani. Yet we have reduced such great sincerity to shameless boasting about how big the animal is, how sharp our knife is, how quickly we cut the animal e.t.c! And thus we waste away such noble deeds by insincerely advertising it to the rest of the world. Therefore in summary, riya means to worship more, less or to stop worshipping altogether in order to impress people and to avoid this, we must keep refreshing our intentions and avoid boasting about our deeds.

May Allah forgive us and grant us the tawfiq to be sincere, Aameen.

— Hazrat Maulana Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s bayan in Gauteng on 10/7/17. The full audio can be heard below)

Pornography

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(Below is an article by Hazrat Ml. Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه, taken from www.yunuspatel.co.za)

WE ALL KNOW THAT FISH LIVE IN WATER. They generally cannot survive long out of water. However, when fish move towards the surface of the ocean, they become easy catch for fishermen – like we find with the sardine run. People just grab, net and catch sardines from the surface of the water.

And when a fisherman catches a fine fish, he reels it in. He does not throw it back into the sea. Once it is hooked … once it is caught … it is pulled out. …Why? Because fish out of water, when scaled and washed, when ‘masaalaad[1] and fried, tastes nice.

In my Dua, I normally say: O Allah, make us the fish that swim deep down in the ocean of Your Ma’rifat.

Like the fish, the Believer is swimming deep in the safety of Allah Ta’ala’s ocean of love. If he moves towards temptation, he makes an easy and fine catch for shaytaan.

Do we want to become a meal for shaytaan? …Because this is exactly what happens to the heart of the Believer who dashes for the bait of sins: His Imaan is ‘scaled’, his good deeds are ‘washed away’, his heart and soul are ‘marinated’ in darkness and fried in the fire of restlessness – to the delight of shaytaan. Allah Ta’ala forbid that this restless soul has to also one day contend with the fire of Hell.

Many write that they are hooked onto porn films and porn magazines. They fall for the bait which shaytaan tempts them with, get hooked and end up ruining their spiritual, mental and physical health.

Pornography is one of the root causes of insanity.

Those who have the habit of viewing pornography generally do so at night. They spend the day working and the night watching filth. They are overcome with restlessness and are deprived of sleep. Sleep deprivation is a one way ticket to mental instability. In the long-term, the brain is badly damaged, and the person loses his sanity. He ends up in an asylum or shoots himself.

One young brother contacted me saying that he had a porn addiction. He knew it is haraam but said he just could not give up the sin. He would secretly watch pornography, late at night, after the family went to sleep. And then, one night, whilst watching porn, there was a tremor.

The building began to shake and everyone got up, running down the stairs in their pyjamas, running helter skelter, fearing the worst, expecting that was their end. He said that at that time, my Dua hit his heart: “O Allah! Do not let the Angel of death find us in any sin, in gambling, drinking, pornography!”

He immediately made sincere Taubah. But it took a real life shake up to get him to give up the sin. He was fortunate that he was granted the opportunity of repenting, otherwise what would have been the condition, returning to Allah Ta’ala whilst viewing pornography?

I generally give the following reply to those who write saying they are addicted to porn:

Allah Ta’ala forbid, if some criminal has to put a gun to your head, will you say: ‘It is difficult for me to stop watching this porn. I am addicted. Please allow me to watch all these filthy pictures first before you blow my head.’ …Or will you start reading Duas for Allah Ta’ala to protect you?

Similarly, death is following us all. What if the Angel of Death visits at that time to extract your soul? Would you want your life to end while watching porn – because the Angel of Death will not give you time to switch off the computer and make Taubah?

Imagine if you die when viewing pornography. What an embarrassment and disgrace! Thereafter, people will ask – as is common: “How did he die? When? Where? What was he doing?” – Would you like that people say: “He died in front of the computer and he was watching a dirty film.”

Rasulullah ﷺ  was asked: ‘What is Imaan?’

Rasulullah ﷺ  replied: When your good deeds give you happiness and when your evil deeds cause you grief.’[2]

If reading porn magazines, watching filthy movies, being involved in some illicit relationship, drinking, gambling and indulging in other sins does not create any remorse and sorrow and instead we are expressing happiness over sins, where is our Imaan?

One situation is that the person engages in some sin but then genuinely regrets. However, when there is persistence and enjoyment in sins,where is Imaan? Deriving pleasure in Haraam indicates to pollution in the heart. The heart needs to be washed and cleaned with sincere Taubah and needs to be polished with Zikrullah.

At least recognize sin as sin. Detest it. This is Imaan. The person has Imaan if he is feeling unhappy and grieved when he has displeased Allah Ta’ala. Understand that whatever Allah Ta’ala enjoins upon us and forbids us from is in our best interests; for our benefit, advantage, well-being and success.

Hazrat Abdullah Ibn Mubarak رحمة الله عليه who was a great Wali of Allah Ta’ala, summed up the consequences of sins, saying: “I see that sins cause death to the heart and becoming addicted to the sins brings about humiliation and disgrace. On the other hand, abandoning sins gives life to the heart. So it is best for you to disobey the nafs.”

May Allah Ta’ala grant us the Taufeeq to give up all sins and purify our hearts and souls and may Allah Ta’ala grant us death, when He is pleased with us.

Music: A major sin that leads to more sins

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Globally there are three sins that are very common. One is zina/fornication, the second is drugs/intoxicants and the third is music. These three sins are classified as major sins in Shariah, but our attitude towards them are somewhat different. If we look into our society, spouses and family members become very upset with one who is committing zina. If a man proposes and her family members find out that he has been involved in drugs before, suddenly, there’s a big question mark over that proposal. Therefore with drugs, we are on red alert. When it comes to zina, we are on red alert. But with music, we take this sin very very lightly. We do not regard it as the grave sin that it is.

At time music is unavoidable. As we walk down the streets, enter into a shop, or as we sit idly in traffic, there is almost always someone playing music out loud. During such moments, it is unavoidable. However we must ask ourselves, does it irk us? Does it trouble us? Does it make us feel uncomfortable?

If the answer is no, then we are guilty of watering down deen and trivialising this major sin. Once Nabi ﷺ was walking with a Sahaabi and from a distance music, could be heard. Immediately, Nabi ﷺ put his fingers into his ears. As they walked, He continuously asked his companion if the music was still audible or not, until finally they were out of earshot. Only then did Nabi ﷺ take his fingers out of his ears.

If people were committing zina in the open or taking drugs, we would not feel comfortable sitting by them watching or engaging in their haram! But with music…why do many of us feel so comfortable sitting in the company of one listening to music, when it too, is a major sin? Music is the very sin that entices people to commit zina or take drugs! It causes an eclipse to occur in the heart, the belief that Allah is watching us becomes overshadowed causing a person to enter into the state of ghaflat, which paves the way to many more sins.

Those who watch movies, if they had no music, would it be as interesting to watch? Every scene has a different tune playing in the background to suit the scene. If it is a horror, romantic or action scene, the music swiftly changes. This is because the music alters the mind, it puts a person into a different mood, it creates an effect on the heart and thus shaytaan uses this tool to entice us into haram.

Nabi ﷺ said that music creates hypocrisy in the heart. Meaning on one hand we claim to be believers, yet on the other hand we are doing actions that are totally unbefitting a believer. When hypocrisy enters, the remembrance of Allah leaves the heart. Then, although a person may be a believer, his actions speak otherwise.

Therefore, music is extremely dangerous to our Imaan. Not only should we avoid it completely, we must also ensure that our children do too. I know a young man who was obedient and practising. One day, his character suddenly changed. He became disinterested in Salah and began disobeying his parents. They could not understand why until one day, they noticed that he would always wear a woolly hat. Strangely enough, he would wear it constantly even throughout summer and during the night. His father became very suspicious by this so one night, he went to check up on his son. He removed the hat and found earphones plugged into his ears, he was in bed with his phone, listening to music. And it was this constant listening to music that caused his entire character to change for the worse.

This is the effect of music. You yourself can attest to what I am saying if you have been to the circus or watched movies before. It is shaytaan’s tool to condition the mind. For this reason, Nabi ﷺ said that I have been sent and instructed to break musical instruments. But unfortunately today, these musical instruments have even made their way into Islamic nasheeds too.

May Allah forgive us, and enable us to stay away from this great sin and all other sins, and may He enable us to take all sins seriously, Aameen.

— Hazrat Maulana Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(The above is an extract from Hazrat’s jumah lecture on 17/2/17 on the topic of Music. To listen to the full lecture, click here.)

 

In Islam do wives have to cook, clean and live with inlaws?

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A man who gets married should continue making khidmah of his parents (i.e. serving them). It is not his wife’s duty, if she wishes to do it then she will be rewarded immensely. However, if she is unable to do so for any reason, he has no right to get upset with her. He should serve them.

A lady recently emailed me saying that she cooks, cleans and serves her inlaws dutifully. After completing all these chores, eventually she sits down at the table to eat her share of the meal. But in that duration whilst she is eating, her father in law calls her 5-6 times to get up from the table and do something for him.

This attitude is absolutely incorrect, a father in laws cannot be so demanding! She has every right to refuse to cook and tell her husband to cook instead or find a cook. But alhamdulillah our wives are not like that. Despite such struggles, many women continue to live with their inlaws and cook for them. So we must appreciate them, not take advantage!

A husband citing these points in an argumentative way against his wife is incorrect. Our deen is a balanced one that gives rights to everyone. If we misunderstand these rights and limits of deen we will make zulm rather than khidmah.

Therefore, if you are in doubt or if you misunderstand an aspect of deen, seek guidance from ulama.

Often a man wants to stay with his parents to look after them, but his wife is not happy because she knows that it is not working between her and her inlaws. He too is aware of this, he too knows that his parents are being unreasonable in their treatment towards his wife. So why is he continuing to subject his wife to that struggle? Yes, he may be the only son and with his parents ageing, of course, he should not abandon them.

But wives have rights too. If they are making life a misery for his wife then he should separate his house. Give her her own section that they do not have access to. That way, she can have her own privacy and peace. She can cook, send food and visit them when she wishes too. And when she needs her space, she can go to her section of the home. That is her right.

Instead of this balanced approach, some husbands are adamant and think that no, I must serve parents. Yes, do so, but shariah does not advocate that we give due right to one person, at the expense of another. This is zulm (i.e oppression), not the itidaal (i.e balance) that our deen calls towards.

May Allah make grant us tawfiq, Aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s dhikr majlis on 30/1/2016. To listen to the full audio, please click here.)

Overcoming Jealousy

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(By Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه)

Allah ﷻ in His Infinite Wisdom which we, with our limited intelligence, cannot comprehend, distributes amongst mankind of His bounties. Wealth, intelligence, health, beauty and all other goodness are given by Allah ﷻ.

Therefore, there is no need to burn the heart over someone else’s gifts, fortunes and possessions. Harbouring jealousy in the heart only harms the one who is jealous, ruins his peace of mind, torments his heart, and destroys his own good deeds.

It is mentioned in a Hadeeth: “Beware of jealousy, for verily it destroys good deeds the way fire destroys wood.”

Explaining this, Hazrat Maulana Shah Muhammad Ahmad رحمة الله عليه aptly conveyed the reality of jealousy in his poetry:

“Why are you burning yourself in the fire of jealousy?
Why are walking towards the Fire of Hell?
Are you unhappy with the distribution made by
Allah, Himself?
Why are you rubbing the palms of your hands in deep regret?”

Therefore expel the evil of jealousy from the heart. We must seek goodness from Allah ﷻ and make the correct effort by making use of the Halaal means to acquire what is permissible to acquire. Be satisfied and content with whatever is achieved.

(For articles, books and audio clips of Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه, please click here)

Warding off shaytan

imageHave you ever tried driving a car with a misted windscreen and no demister? If you do not stop, you will surely cause an accident. However, if we either get out of the car or keep wiping the mist away, we have a chance of reaching our destination safely.

The devil’s work is to mist the windscreen and break the demister. He mists the windscreen by:

  1. causing us to sin.
  2. Bringing evil thoughts and doubts to the mind.

Once this happens, we cannot see the path clearly. The solution is to put on the demister meaning we should repent, engage in dua and complete our muáamalaat (which means our daily quota of worship). But then this enemy breaks the demister by making us lose hope in Allah. Once one loses hope, then one will not turn to Allah. If we do not turn to Allah, then the windscreen is only going to thicken with the mist until we cannot see at all.

So when you feel hopeless and upset, force yourself to turn back to Allah, increase your duas and stay focused. Because that is the demister we need to ward off evils. In a short while, the devil will back off.

(Advice of Hazrat Maulana Dawood Seedat  حفظه الله)

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا تُوبُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ تَوْبَةً نَصُوحًا عَسَىٰ رَبُّكُمْ أَنْ يُكَفِّرَ عَنْكُمْ سَيِّئَاتِكُمْ وَيُدْخِلَكُمْ جَنَّاتٍ تَجْرِي مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْأَنْهَارُ يَوْمَ لَا يُخْزِي اللَّهُ النَّبِيَّ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَعَهُ ۖ نُورُهُمْ يَسْعَىٰ بَيْنَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَبِأَيْمَانِهِمْ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا أَتْمِمْ لَنَا نُورَنَا وَاغْفِرْ لَنَا ۖ إِنَّكَ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ

“O you who believe! Turn to Allah, with sincere repentance. It may be that your Lord will expiate from you your sins, and admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow, on the Day when Allah will not disgrace the Prophet and those who believed with Him. Their light will run before them and to their right hands. They will say, Our Lord! Perfect for us our light and forgive us. Indeed, you are powerful over everything.” (Quran, 66:8)

~ Never lose Hope ~

What is a Khanqah and what do we do there?

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(Below is an extract from a lecture delivered by Hazrat Maulana Dawood Seedat  حفظه الله. To listen to the full lecture, please click here.)

Hazratjee Maulana Maseehullah Khan رحمة الله عليه once addressed His murideen with regards to those staying in the khanqah. Before we go into the address..what is a khanqah? Nowadays this concept is so alien, many don’t even know what the term means or what to do there! Back in the days it was so common in countries like India. Here in South Africa, it is just known as a good place where meals are served!

Really, a khanqah is a place where we stay for our islah. Hazrat Maulana Abdul Hamid Ishaaq حفظه الله has one that’s running in their Darul Uloom. Besides this, I don’t know of any proper khanqah here in South Africa. May Allah ﷻ fill my fathers qabr with noor, Aameen. He sent us to the khanqah in India when were younger. What we saw, and what we see now…we wonder, what’s going on? It’s chalk and cheese.

So Hazratjee رحمة الله عليه had people coming to stay in the khanqah on a regular basis. Everyday, Hazratjee رحمة الله عليه would hold a majlis. In this one He addressed his murideen with regards to staying in the khanqah. Hazratjee رحمة الله عليه said:

“After staying in the khanqah, there’s no question of feeling upset over someone telling you off. If your wife bought a knife out with the intent of using it on you, you’d complain and ask her…what are you doing?! But in an operational theatre, if the doctors and nurses come with knives and sharp objects and you protest, they’d say that you’re here for an operation and we cannot operate without these tools! If you wish to be operated upon, you must accept us using these tools as part of the process to your recovery.

So why have you come here (to the khanqah)? You have come with the intention of islah. So that even if someone was to take a basket full of faeces and throw it on me, I’ll accept. I will not let anger overtake me. That’s why I came here; to crush my nafs. If you didn’t know about this before you came, now be informed. This is what needs to be done here in the khanqah. If you feel uptight or angered (by someone telling you off), this indicates a deficiency within you. The Shaikh (like a doctor) will operate and remove this anger.”

So Hazratjee رحمة الله عليه has explained here that if you’re feeling upset over a telling off, then there’s a deficiency in islah and the Shaikh needs to remove it. However, we must take the first step by informing the Shaikh of our deficiencies. For those who are truly seeking Allah ﷻ, if months go by and we are not praying fajr with jamat, we need to tell our Shaikh. This is more important than outward affection towards the Shaikh.

A true talib is not the one who is most affectionate towards their Shaikh, it is the one who informs the Shaikh of his deficiencies in order to get help! The one who, as soon as he sees a problem he thinks no I won’t delay asking, I need to inform my Shaikh and sort myself out. If he thinks no I’m alright, it’ll be ok, then he is nafsparast (a slave to his desires). So be a talibe saadiq.

To become this sincere, true talib we must correct our internal environment. Remember the whole world has not been made your responsibility. Your spiritual reformation is your responsibility. On a hot day if we turn the fan on, we can cool ourselves and a few others, but can we cool the whole world? That we cannot do.

(Hazrat then explains how to correct the internal environment. To read the transcript on correcting the internal environment, please click here.)

Don’t give takleef in the name of Khidmah/service!

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The object of khidmah is to give raahat which means to give someone ease. If you’re giving takleef (i.e if you’re making it difficult), what’s the point? Sometimes when we are travelling by the house of another and we know it’s unlikely we’ll go down this route anytime soon. We think that since I’m here, I may aswell visit him/her. We decide to stay for just 10 minutes but once we get there, out of love, they tell us that we must sit for longer. They request one to stay and have tea, have supper, have meals with us. Now the host is forcing you to have meals and he’s not taking no for an answer!

As for the guest, he has a long way til home. Maybe he’s tired, and now he’s wondering that why did I stop here?! When I phoned him on the road I told him just ten minutes, he knew the plan. Look what problem I’ve landed myself into, a short stay of ten minutes will now last for hours! So the host; he is happy. As for the guest? He’s being forced to drop his plans and stay. So we must ask ourselves; whose khidmah is being made? Is this true khidmah – giving raahat and ease to others, or is this takleef – making things difficult for others?

Other times, we may get a host who keeps on refilling the plates of his guests. The guest may be full, he may have a health problem…he doesn’t want to eat all this extra food! But now he doesn’t want to offend the host by putting the food back so he pretends its ok, but really he’s struggling!

So is this khidmah or are we giving takleef?

If someone says no, we must learn to take no for an answer. Sometimes less is more, so don’t force people to stay or eat. Other times we have a scholar who is visiting the country. Naturally everyone wants to make khidmah but there are only 3 meals in a day, and the scholar may be in town for only a day or two! So his meals are fixed but one person comes later on, requesting that if He can’t come for meals to my house, then come for tea. The organiser doesn’t want to upset anyone. So he says that fine we’ll come after asr, before supper.

So this host, he knows they’re just coming for tea. He knows someone else is preparing supper directly after. But this host…he serve pies, samosas, dessert, pakoras, aloo paratha, cakes, biscuits…he serves way more than ‘tea’! Are we that selfish in our thinking; don’t we have consideration for the fact that there’s another family whose preparing supper? Now how will this visiting scholar eat supper there?

Is this khidmah or are we giving takleef?

We must understand; to make khidmah is nafl, to give takleef is haram. Therefore despite having good intentions, we must ensure we do not overstep the line and cause takleef, otherwise our nafl act will become a haram act.

May Allah ﷻ grant us the tawfiq, Aameen.

(The above is an extract from a lecture delivered by Hazrat Maulana Dawood Seedat حفظه الله. To listen to the full audio, please click here.)

 

What causes us to show off?

 As a result of insincerity, diseases such as riya/showing off will enter the heart. His gaze is no longer on Allah ﷻ, he just wants to impress people now. This eventually leads to many further spiritual diseases, one of them is jealousy. Why? Because if a person is showing off, he wants the spotlight and all the attention on him. So when someone else is upstaging him, immediately a sense of jealousy enters his heart. If he allows this jealousy to intensify, hatred creeps in. Another spiritual disease stemming from riya is pride. If people are impressed with him, he feels proud. If pride doesn’t enter, ujub would. Ujub means to be self conceited – considering ourselves to be too good.

Now, often due to the dominating effect of pride in the heart, no effort in islah is made. Sometimes, the person can even be present in the circles where islah is taking place. But his niyyah and purpose is totally opposite. So this pride clouds everything else.

Ibn qayyum رحمه الله says that the words on a person’s tongue is a window to what he holds in his heart.

Therefore, deep-hearted pride, jealousy e.t.c will manifest itself in a person’s actions. For example, if someone is drowning in the ocean and we throw a rope in to save them. A while later, someone else sees him and enters the dingy to pull him out. Now in this situation, perhaps he would’ve drowned if we didn’t throw in the rope and help him first. However regardless of this, we still thank the one who entered the dingy! We don’t fight with him saying that we saw him first, we deserve to be the one who pulls him out, saves him and gets the credit for it e.t.c it’s foolishness! Outwardly, our efforts in helping him may seem sterling. But if we are insincere seeking recognition and praise, then this action will not be accepted by Allah ﷻ. And anything rejected by Allah ﷻ, will amount to nothing.

On the other hand, deep-hearted sincerity and humility will also shine through a person’s speech and actions. For example, this morning we were doing a hadeeth in which Hazrat Khalid رضي الله عنه was talking about the battle of Mutah. Hazrat Khalid رضي الله عنه said that 9 swords broke in my hand on that day, and I was only left with a small, Yemeni sword (referring to a small dagger). Hazrat Khalid رضي الله عنه could’ve attributed the achievement to himself by saying “Do you know, on the day of muta I broke 9 swords?!” But instead of saying – I – He humbled himself, opting to saying that 9 broke in my hand, and it’s this level of humility that takes a believer from average to beloved in the sight of Allah ﷻ.

May Allah grant us grant us sincerity and humility Aameen.

(The above is an extract from Hazrat’s bayan. To listen to the full audio, please click here)