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Be wary of whom you take your deen from

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Be wary of whom you take your deen from

Introductory Note: On the 22nd of August 2017 a marriage conference was held at the Sandton Convention Centre, Johannesburg. Scholars flew in from all over the world to give speeches. The conference was branded as Islamic. However, on the day many laws of the Shariah were violated. This includes free-mixing, acts in which very dirty jokes were made, insults towards the marriage of Nabi ﷺ and utter disrespect towards the noble Abu Hurairah (RA).

In this talk, Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat (DB) spoke about these violations and their great, long-term consequences. Hazrat also made mention of the Eidgah in Durban and the Ship cruise. The commonality between all three events is the modernisation of deen caused by lack of ilm and not seeking the guidance of true, upright Scholars. This modernisation is a global problem. The primary advice contained in this transcript deals with the causes of modernisation and how to combat them in light of the Sunnah. Hazrat further speaks about whom we can take our deen from and whom we should avoid, making this transcript one that is applicable to all.

Lastly, any mistakes are the error of the compiler for which I seek Allah’s forgiveness and the reader’s pardon. May Allah accept Hazrat’s work and efforts, aameen.

 

Understanding the power of the Qur’an

It is narrated from Abu Hurairah رضي الله عنه that Nabi ﷺ said: “No people gather together in one of the Houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying it among themselves, except that sakeenah descends upon them and mercy envelops them, and the angels surround them and Allah mentions them amongst those who are with Him.”

Sakeenah means tranquillity which only descends upon the hearts of believers. Disbelieving hearts are weakened due to lack of faith and therefore, they cannot contain it. When we were children we used to buy peanuts from the shops. The shopkeeper would shape a newspaper into a cone and fill it with the nuts. However, if we were to buy tea or coffee and put it in that newspaper the liquid would seep through, softening and ripping the newspaper. It does not have the correct properties to contain liquids. Likewise, the hearts of disbelievers do not have the spiritual strength and qualities to contain this sakeenah.

This sakeenah causes believers to grow in faith. Allah says in Surah Fath, ayah 4 that it is He who sent down Sakeenah into the hearts of believers, that they may grow more in Faith. This growth in faith becomes apparent in the amal of a believer. One’s actions are then aligned with the Shariah and the Sunnah. That believer, once this special sakeenah descends, he will not want to remain a mediocre believer who puts in mediocre effort. He will become of those who pray Ishraaq, Awabeen and Tahajjud, and those who exert themselves in their worship and efforts.

Nabi ﷺ further says that the mercy of Allah will envelop that reciter or student of the Qur’an. This mercy makes it easy to say no to sin. Nabi ﷺ would make dua that O Allah grant me your mercy, by enabling me to give up sins. He never sinned but he made this dua to teach us that Allah’s mercy will make it easy for us to give up sinful disobedience. Thus the barakah of the Qur’an is that tranquillity descends then Allah’s mercy which in turn, makes worshipful obedience easier.

Nabi ﷺ then says that the angels also envelop that gathering of the Qur’an. The effects of this are that angelic qualities will rub onto the hearts of those in the gathering too. The deception of the dunya is that a man in an illicit relationship will call his girlfriend an angel. She is no angel for him, even our language is a deception. For believers, when Allah gives us the tawfiq to do amal, that attracts real angels to our gatherings and their presence has a positive effect on us.

Lastly, Nabi ﷺ mentioned that Allah makes mention of these reciters of the Qur’an to those who are with Allah. Mullah Ali Qari رحمة الله عليه says that Allah mentions this to the senior angels who are very close to Allah, and to the souls of all the Prophets and the Messengers عليهم السلام. So imagine that you are sitting here in masjid reciting Qur’an and Allah is telling them that Muhammad the son of so-and-so, is sitting in such-and-such masjid reciting the Qur’an, what a great honour that would be!

Hazrat Ml. Muhammad Zakariyya رحمة الله عليه said, if we had to spend our entire lives to acquire just one of these virtues, it would have been well worth the effort. Yet how fortunate are we, that Allah is willing to give us all of them if we fulfill his conditions first. Therefore, we should never consider recitation and taleem of the Qur’an a light matter. Shaikhul Hind رحمة الله عليه was imprisoned in Malta for 4 years. Upon release, his first advice was to make taleem. He explained that the downfall of the Ummah is due to us being distanced from the Qur’an. He then made it his life mission to open up classes and reconnect people to the word of Allah.

The teacher of Maulana Qasim Seema رحمة الله عليه was Maulana Badriharam رحمة الله عليه. In 1958, one of his students went for Hajj. During his visit to Madinah Munawwarah, he was so touched being close to Nabi ﷺ that he decided to stay there. He made this intention and back in those days, it was easy to settle in Madinah Munawwarah too. However, that night he had a dream of Nabi ﷺ. Nabi ﷺ told him that you going back home and sitting on the mimbar of any masjid in your area teaching the Qur’an, is better than staying here and spending 20 years besides me.

May Allah enable us to really understand these great virtues of the Qur’an and may this understanding become a means of our guidance, Aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s Jumah lecture on 5/8/17 in Madrassah Tarteelul Qur’an. To listen to the full audio, please click here.)

Be content with Allah’s plans for you

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Be content will all that Allah has given you. Beauty, wealth, health, intelligence, kayfiyat, knowledge, and the spreading of our works of deen, are all blessings from Allah. Some people are given more of some qualities, others are given more of others.

Sometimes, you will find a tableeghi will leave for Jamat in rural areas. In such areas, who will put up posters announcing his coming? Who will even know him? No-one. Yet, he makes great sacrifices, often opting to sleep on the floor or in difficult conditions. Eventually, when his speech takes place there may be just a small crowd who attend. At times tableeghis enter and leave a village with little to no recognition. Compare that to an Islamic scholar who travels on all paid for flight to another town, picked up from there by car and dropped off to a masjid. Posters distributed days in advance, he is received by a large crowd eager to hear him speak. Then he is fed a hearty meal and driven back to the airport to catch his flight home. He endures little hardship with all his expenses paid.

Now both examples are on opposite ends of the spectrum, however the commonality is the decree of Allah that chose hardship for the former, and ease for the latter. In both, lies great reward. If the tableeghi did not go to the rural areas, who would? Someone has to, so Allah chose Him. For the Islamic scholar, a fancy poster advertising his programme beforehand coupled with the hype surrounding his visit is all Allah’s way of getting people to attend a bayan and learn deen.

Thus even in works of deen, Allah will take work from us all in different ways. Never assume the route He chose for you is insignificant due to external factors, because your heart impacts the weight of your deeds more than external factors ever could.

Hafiz Abdur Rahman Mia was the founder of Mia Farm. Many senior scholars of our country completed their hifzul Quran with him, and even during his illness in old age, he would teach saying that teaching is my sustenance. People would advise him to slow down but he would refuse. Towards the end of his life Hazrat Ml. Shah Hakeem Akhtar RA went to visit him. He asked him how many people became huffaz under him and considering he taught till the very end of his life, the number must have been quite high. But his answer was so beautiful, instead of quoting a number or even an estimate, he simply replied that I can only give you a reply on the Day of Judgement. Why? Because only the ones Allah accepted will count. How many completed is not the aim, how many are accepted is.

This is how our mindset should be in all matters. Focus less on quantity, more on quality, less on external factors that you may have little control over, more on internal factors. Because a quality heart filled with sincerity, piety, and humility, is more beloved in the sight of Allah and closer to acceptance than one devoid of good qualities, even if the former does little work of deen and the latter does many. Be content in all matters and inshaAllah, even your small efforts will become weighty in the hereafter.

May Allah grant us the ability to keep our gaze so heavily focused on Him and save us from the discontentment that arises when we do not, Aameen.

– Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله 

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s bayan on 27/3/2017)

No money for Eid clothes

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Two little boys came to their mother with a request. “Our friends have both got new clothes for Eid. Can we have some new clothes as well?” Their mother, Fatima bint Abdul Malik رحمها الله, was no ordinary woman. Her father, grandfather and each of her four brothers were at one time or another a Khalifa (ruler of the Muslim World).

In fact, her own husband was the present Khalifa, Umar ibn Abdul Aziz رحمة الله عليه – who ruled the world’s largest empire that stretched from the Atlantic Ocean to the Indian Ocean. She promised them that she would check with their father to see if the two princes could have new clothes for Eid. When Umar ibn Abdul Aziz رحمة الله عليه returned home, his wife related the children’s request to him. The Khalifa had a pained look in his eyes.

“Fatima, you know how much I value my children, but all the money I have is in front of you”, he said motioning towards the sparsely furnished hut. Though a Khalifa, Umar رحمة الله عليه took care to live honestly and did much to ensure justice. Fatima رحمها الله agreed with her husband, but she said that maybe it would be possible to buy very cheap clothes for the children and they’d just be happy with something new to wear.

Finally, the Khalifa agreed and wrote a letter to his treasurer requesting that his pay be advanced a month early so that he could buy his children something to wear on Eid.

But the honest and pious Khalifa had an equally honest treasurer. The reply he got was this:
“Amir Ul-Mumineen, I have great respect for you and I trust and obey you completely. However, if you could guarantee to me that you will live through the next month and do your service to the people (which will entitle you to your pay) then the money can be advanced to you. If you cannot give the assurance of your life, then how can the treasury pay you?”

Umar ibn Abdul Aziz رحمة الله عليه realised his mistake. Fatima bint Abdul Malik رحمها الله, washed her children’s old tattered clothes for Eid day and sent them out to play. One has to wonder if they were made from the same dust as us. A beautiful example that if we are not in the financial position to buy eid clothes we cannot go over the top and open accounts at Edgars, Bally Spitz, e.t.c, thereby spending money we don’t have.

What we have to do before Ramadan ends

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Riots and unrest in our country are a serious problem. But right now, more serious is the curse of Jibreel عليه السلام who made the following dua; may that person enter the hellfire, who reaches Ramadan and is not forgiven. Now let’s analyse this dua. The greatest angel made this dua and thereafter, the greatest man to walk this earth – Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم – said aameen. It took place in Riyadhul Jannah; a place which most people just enter and feel hopeful that their duas will be accepted! And here we have a dua that took place right inside, on the Mimbar of Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم.

This dua is very weighty, we can’t afford to ignore it. With only 2 days left of Ramadan, ensure that you secure Allah’s forgiveness. If we do not, we will have to live with that curse…can we bear that? We can’t afford to live with that. So as the end of this auspicious month nears, make it count. The people of Yunus عليه السلام were on the brink of punishment. It loomed over their heads but at the last moment, they quickly repented and Allah forgave them. Likewise, we are on the brink of the end of Ramadan but if we repent, Allah will forgive us too. It is never too late. Tonight could be laylatul Qadr, there is no surety that it has already passed.

Furthermore, if Eid is on Monday, then alhamdulillah we have the whole weekend left. I know a lot of us are off from work on weekends. Use this time wisely. Turn to Allah, repent and make a change before this month ends. And then your eid will be much more than just tasty food, new clothes and meeting families. May Allah accept from us, Aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s Jumah bayan on 23/06/17.)

 

Good Character: An example from the lives of the Pious

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There was a well-known, respected Muslim scholar in India. Some people took advantage of his noble rank by using his name to get their own work done. For example, they would tell people that Hazrat sent me here e.t.c. This became common, so someone informed him that people are lying and using your name to get their work done. He responded that I can’t benefit them in person, so at least their dunya is being sorted out via my name. At least I can benefit people in this regard. Now Hazrat was a beacon of light in India and a guide for many! But due to his humility he was unaware of his greatness, and thus he would think little of himself.

Hazratjee Maulana Maseehullah Khan رحمة الله عليه once mentioned an incident about a man who was in search of a job. He went for an interview and in a desperate attempt to secure the job, he claimed that he was the son in law of this scholar. Now of course this was untrue, however, the employed did not know that he lied. Rather, the employer believed it, and feeling guilty to reject the son in law of such a noble scholar, he accepted. Thus he fell for the lie and gave him the job. After some time had passed, the owner happened to bump into Hazrat. He said to Hazrat that we are happy with your son in law, he is working well with us! It was kind of you to send him.

Hearing this, Hazrat became confused. Where did this son in law come from? However, he had such courtesy for all people that he never exposed the man. Instead, he nodded in agreement to the fabricated statement. After the owner left, Hazrat made enquiries about this “son in law”. Eventually He called for him to be bought, and asked about the matter. The man replied that I was so desperate for a job, I decided to use your name to help me. Now both he and Hazrat knew that this was a blatant lie but rather than becoming annoyed, angry or displaying bad character, Hazrat had mercy upon him.

Hazrat’s only concern was safeguarding the dignity of this one man. So he said that if I had a daughter, I would have married you to her. But i don’t, however, to make your statement true and to preserve your dignity and job, I can adopt your wife as my daughter. After adopting His wife, He began to treat her like his daughter too. He would give her gifts and when he invited his own daughters home, he would always invite his adopted daughter too. And that is how Hazrat went to such great lengths just to safeguard the dignity of just one believer!

May Allah elevate His status and grant us the tawfiq to display good character at all times, aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s bayan in Darul Uloom Azaadville, on 19/5/17.)

Ramadan: A month of Reflection

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Ramadan is a month of reflection, a time to rectify our hearts, families and homes. We can sit for hours watching a movie or the build up to a football game but can we spend that long reading the Quran? Or an Islamic book? If not, then this month is an opportunity to change that, to develop and increase our love for deen. Shaytan is caged up, the mist is cleared, the path becomes clearer so think, reflect and act.

Immerse yourself in the love of Allah, and this will give you the spiritual strength to combat sins. I was going to apply for something the other day but I thought to myself that they will give me forms to fill out. Therefore, if I apply now I will have to spend some portion of Ramadan engaged in this work. Why do it in Ramadan when I can do it later? So I left it and if Allah gives me life, then I will do it in Shawwal.

We must look into our lives and the minor duties that can wait, put them on hold otherwise we will lose focus. Usually, we suggest balancing between our worldly and religious duties. But during Ramadan we exert ourselves as much as possible. It is the month of action. So whilst usually it is good to attend islamic lectures in Ramadan, our main focus should be individual worship.

The Ummahatul Mumineen have said that Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم would tighten his waistbelt in the last 10 days of Ramadan, spending His nights in prayer and keeping His family awake to do the same. If a person undertakes physical labour, he tightens his belt to stop it falling while he works. So tightening one’s belt is a figure of speech, and in this hadeeth, it shows that Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم would go that extra mile during this blessed month. He would spend so long leading salah, the Sahaaba رضي الله عنهم would fear missing suhoor.

That is a stark contrast to our community here in South Africa, where some people are busy searching for the masjid that leads taraweeh the quickest! And then we have men like Hafiz Ismail Jassat from Darul Uloom Azaadville, may Allah preserve Him. Last year in Taraweeh Salah, he read 29 juz’ in one rakah, and the last juz’ in the remaining 19 rakahs of Taraweeh.

We visited Darul Uloom Azaadville a few days ago and we met Hazrat Ml. Abdul Hamid Ishaq حفظه الله. As we ate lunch together he told us that whenever an area is secured in gauteng for an ijtima, Hafiz saab visits, walks around the area and recites the whole Quran. Then he ends by making dua..all in just one walk!

Another Maulana mentioned to Hazrat Ml. Abdul Hamid حفظه الله that this year, I would like to ask hafiz saab to read one whole Quran in the first rakah and read another in the next. SubhanAllah look at how they think. We wonder where the quickest Taraweeh is prayed, and their concern is how can we extend our prayers and increase our rewards? May Allah make us like them, Aameen.

Turn to Allah, become an ardent worshipper and lover of Allah. Life has no guarantee this world keeps changing so I ask you, what permanent benefit can a temporary world offer you? Buy and use worldly items, but do not become attached. Coming back to a few days ago when I saw my principal Hazrat Ml. Abdul Hamid Ishaq حفظه الله, he looked the exact same as he did twenty years ago.

He walks the same, talks the same and dresses the same because he has peace, contentment and happiness in his heart. So there is no need to change. But when you look at those who attach themselves to the dunya, they are constantly changing their hairstyle and dresscode. They do not know what they want, they are just following trends and changing every other day. There is no peace in that. But the Sunnah? You will always find peace in the Sunnah.

May Allah enable us to reach Ramadan and spend it in His obedience, Aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s bayan on 22/5/17.)

The effects of Sins and repentance

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(Below is an article by Hazrat Ml. Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه, taken from www.yunuspatel.co.za)

When a person indulges in sins, in disobedience to Allah Ta’ala, then the heart immediately connects with the fire of Hell. As such, one result of sins is heat. The proof of this is drawn from a Masnoon Dua, which was brilliantly and inspirationally explained by Hazrat Maulana Shah Abdul Ghani Phulpoori رحمة الله عليه, a great Shaykh of his time. From the Ahaadeeth we learn different Duas for different occasions. One Dua that was taught to us by Nabi ﷺ is:

“O Allah, wash off my sins with the (melted) water of ice and snow, and purify my heart of sins, just as white clothes are cleansed of filth.”

Let us consider the explanation and meaning of this dua. Hazrat Maulana Shah Abdul Ghani Saheb رحمة الله عليه related that on one occasion he had a most respected guest present during his lesson of Bukhari Shareef. The guest was Hazrat Maulana Dr. Abdul Hayy Saheb رحمة الله عليه who was a senior Khalifa of Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi رحمة الله عليه.

During this lesson, Dr. Abdul Hayy رحمة الله عليه posed a question to Hazrat Maulana Shah Abdul Ghani رحمة الله عليه. He asked: “Why did Nabi ﷺ use the words ‘ice and snow’ in this particular Dua?” Hazrat رحمة الله عليه being inspired with an answer from Allah Ta’ala, replied:

“There are two major effects that follow the commission of sins. Darkness in the heart

1)       Darkness in the heart

Rasulullah ﷺ explained: “When a Mu’min (believer) sins, a black dot appears on his heart. If he repents and seeks Allah’s forgiveness, his heart becomes cleansed and polished. If he continues to commit more and more sins (without repenting), the spot continues to spread and ultimately covers all of his heart.”

2)       Heat

By means of sins, a person links himself to the fire of Hell. As a result, such a person’s body also produces a kind of heat.

My Shaykh, Hazrat Maulana Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Saheb رحمة الله عليه has mentioned, that generally, when a person is committing a lot of sin, especially if he is entangled in illicit love, then the effect of his sins is so intense and severe, that even his head becomes heated. Of course, this does not mean that every person whose head is heated is involved in sin. It may be that the person is ill or suffering with high temperature, e.t.c.

So consequently, the second quality of sin is that it produces heat. Hazrat Maulana Shah Abdul Ghani Saheb رحمة الله عليه then explained that the attribute of ice is its coolness and the apparent characteristic of snow is its whiteness.

Thus, the two effects of sins are removed with the two effects of snow and ice. The whiteness removes the darkness and the coolness effaces the heat. SubhanAllah!

Moreover, why is ‘white’ cloth used in the Dua? This is because a black cloth will not disclose the spots and marks of dirt, even after having been washed, but white cloth is sure to reveal the slightest trace of dirt. These are explanations that should be most appreciated by students of Deen as well as Saalikeen.

My Shaykh had also explained that if we are deficient in our Love of Allah Ta’ala, and our hearts have become dark and heated due to the commission of sins, then an easy route to giving up our sins, sincerely repenting, purifying our hearts and becoming the friends of Allah Ta’ala is to make friends with His Friends.

May Allah Ta’ala grant us the Taufeeq of Rujoo Ilallaah and His Friendship.

The power of the Mind

 

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Imam Ghazali رحمة الله عليه said that the mind/intellect has to be the king in the body, and anger/desires must be the servants. So if for example one’s desires are running wild towards the impermissible, the king must instruct his anger to arrest that desire. One’s intellect must question that if I were to carry out this desire of mine, what would the consequences be? If it’s negative, I cannot continue with this desire, and if it’s positive, then I can carry it out.

If the intellect does not command anger to arrest desire, then the same intellect will be used by desire to commit wrong. Do you not see how a teenager who wishes to go out for some wrongdoing, completely bluffs his father with a clever, concocted story? He is able to do this because the king has been made the slave of the servant.

Our emotions must be controlled by our intellect, and our intellect must be bound by the Shariah. When this principle is firmly in place, our lives will become peaceful and our hearts will become inclined towards dhikrullah. But when there is a weakness in this, then we will become like animals in our behaviour: out of control and unpredictable.

The companion of the Prophet ﷺ, Abu Talha رضي الله عنه, once embarked on a journey, leaving his wife and baby at home. On his way back home, his baby passed away.  Let us analyse the situation before continuing; her baby was alive before he left, and now, he has passed away. I ask you, what does her emotions want to do as soon as her husband enters the home? This is her husband: The one who she shares her child with. She can stand strong the whole time but when he comes home, she is just waiting to fall in his arms, looking for strength in him. Ready to break down. But you see she had Imaan, so she controlled it. Her intellect instructed her emotions that no, you will not break down like that because when he returns, whether you tell him immediately or after a few hours, it will not make any difference. The baby has passed away, he has moved on. If you tell him immediately he will not eat, or fulfil his desire out of sadness.

She understood this because she thought logically, deciding with her intellect rather than her emotions. So when he eventually returned home and enquired that how is the child? She simply replied that he is better than before. She proceeded to serve him food and she fulfilled his conjugal rights. After he was at ease, she was still contemplating how to soften the blow for him. So she began by posing a question. She asked him that if someone borrows something from a family, and that family asks for it back, can that person refuse to return it? Her husband replied that no, he cannot refuse like that. She responded saying that our child was a gift from Allah. Now, Allah has taken our child back.

Her composure and mannerisms at such a devastating point in her life, really reflects her high level of piety and trust in Allah. She did not act on her emotions and likewise, we should learn to not act on our emotions or anger either. Control it, do not be controlled by it.

Often, saalikeen remark that I am not in the mood to make dhikr. I feel like I will fall into sin, I am so tempted. My response is that these problems will continuously occur, it is natural. But if we keep the king in charge, we will manage to overcome such temptations. Look at a person who works at a shop or the CEO of a business firm. Some days he will feel energetic at work, other days he will feel lethargic. But can he allow these ‘feelings’ to dictate how much work he completes in the day? No, not really because he has to finish his paperwork or organise his files, so he will exert himself whether he likes it or not. Work is work, it needs to get done. Deen is deen, it needs to be followed.

Hazrat Maulana Maseehullah Khan رحمة الله عليه would say that we undermine the strength of the mind. We undermine the power of it. A hunter who owns a horse and a dog will train them both until they become submissive, attacking and running only at his command. The hunter will control them both and that is how the mind should be. The intellect holds the reins of our emotions in its hands, and they will move in accordance to its instructions.

Sometimes when you go to the park, you come across a man who is taking his dog for a walk, but it looks like the dog is taking him for a walk. The dog is running wild in every direction and he is running behind it, whilst the leash is tangling around his hands. Whereas a trained dog will walk submissively behind its master, even if other dogs bark at it, it will still remain focused.

Likewise, the nafs needs to be trained, our desires needs to be reined in, our anger needs to be put on a leash and our intellect must be in control. Once we master this, only then will we be able to live in harmony with ourselves and those around us, displaying good character in all situations as a believer should.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from Hazrat’s Seerah majlis on 23/2/2017. To listen to the full audio, please click here.)

Lessons from the life of Ml. Yunus Patel (RA): The etiquette of giving gifts

 

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Musahafah is an act of worship. Nabi ﷺ said that there are no two Muslims who meet and shake hands with one another, except that they will be forgiven before they part. Therefore, to place money in one’s palm and to hand it over whilst shaking the hand of another Muslim, is against etiquette. We should not contaminate this act of worship with a worldly deed. For example when we go to Makkah Mukarramah/Madinah Munawwarah and meet a cleaner there, often, we intend to give him a bit of money as a gift.

Now if we put a note in our hand and hand it over to him during musahafah, then the next time we see him, we may want to simply make musahafah this time but what will he think when he sees you approaching? He will assume that there is another note coming his way. And this time when you shake his hand without passing a note on, he will feel disheartened. So now the worship of musahafah is forgotten, the fact that our sins are erased is forgotten, because we contaminated it by giving notes. Therefore, it is against etiquette to crumble a note and pass it over during musahafah.

A hadyah (i.e. gift) should be given out of love with no strings attached. Once, Hazrat Ml. Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه came to Pietermaritzburg to give a speech at a madrassa. After the speech, the organisers brought an envelope (with money inside) and gave it to Hazrat. Hazrat refused to accept it. So he said that please accept it; it is a hadyah. But He still refused to accept. The person became insistent and he even attempted to put the envelope in Hazrat’s pocket. At this point, Hazrat became upset so he pushed his hand away and firmly refused.

As we walked back to the car, Hazrat said to me that even if there was one million rands in that envelope, I would still not have accepted it. Because although they say it is a hadyah in reality, they are compensating me for my time and petrol, they are giving it to me because I did a speech. Therefore, this is not truly a hadyah, if it was, then why did they not give it another time, why all of a sudden did they choose to give it today?

They gave it to reimburse Hazrat, whereas a hadyah in its true sense is gifted out of sincere love only. This also means that we should not expect anything in return either. Often when people say that you should not have gone to the trouble of giving me a hadyah e.t.c, we tend to reply that it’s fine, it’s no trouble, just make dua for me. With regards to this, Hazrat Ml. Thanwi رحمة الله عليه said that we should not seek duas at this time as that indicates an expectation, which one should not have at all.

Furthermore, when giving a hadyah we should take the time to present it properly with humility. It is a sign of pride to assume that our hadyah is so great and worthy of accepting, that we can give it anyhow and anywhere. Be humble, we should not consider ourselves great. Go to his house if possible and gift it to him. Hazrat Ml. Yunus Patel رحمة الله عليه would instruct us to never give him islaahi letters in front of a crowd. Hazrat would say that if you do, how will I explain the envelope to everyone in the crowd? They will assume that you are paying me a monthly subscription for being your Shaikh!

So to perfect our character, we must learn and adhere to these adaab/etiquettes. Only then will we be able to display good manners in all situations, like a believer ought to.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه الله

(Above is an extract from a Dhikr Majlis delivered by Hazrat on 13/2/2017. To listen to the full audio, please click here.)